LGBT Rights: Christian Uni Style Update!

This is a bit late, but I’m pleased to report that since my last post on my Christian University’s LGBT rights for professors, the LGBT protection amendment to our employee contract has been passed by both the student body and the student government. Next stop: Board of Directors! I hope they listen to the students and don’t immediately shoot this down. It will have to happen eventually- might as well lead the way to tolerance in private Christian universities, right?

Hope you are having an excellent evening! Rach

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Attempting to swim, but life is overwhelming (as usual)

Hello everyone! I quite apologize for not updating like I should have, but my Spring Break was busier than I expected. Here’s a brief rundown:

Clark came down to California with me. We had fun visiting my hometown, SLO, Santa Maria and Solvang, and he finally met my darling Cila! We had a lot of fun together, just shopping and hanging out. Clark and my family got along famously, thank God, especially with my father, which made me deliriously happy (because I’m definitely a Daddy’s girl). Clark did ask my father for my hand, and my dad said yes, but warned both Clark and I separately about marrying in undergrad. We both assured him that we have absolutely no intentions of marrying in undergrad, especially since I don’t think I yet have the maturity to be someone’s wife yet.

I was emailed about a week ago about the job that I interviewed for, and I got the job! I’m terribly excited to be working as leadership for the volunteer organization that I’ve put so much work and free time into. It makes me a bit anxious to think about, but I already have branched out this much with the students and teachers at the elementary school I volunteer with, so this shouldn’t be too big of a change. It makes my stomach quiver to think about the fact that I will actually be in charge of a group of people, and will have to confidently coordinate with teachers and the university. It will be good for me, I think. I see this as one of my first steps to becoming a great teacher, as well as a fantastic way to become a better human being. But I’m still a bit stressed about it, of course!

I couldn’t seem to bring myself to come out to my parents this trip. Stupid nerves. I know that they will probably be shocked, but will still love me and support me (I am lucky enough to have fantastic parents). I just can’t get the words out of my mouth. I can’t seem to time anything right, either. I don’t want to give either of them heart attacks, but I do want them to know that I’m different than they considered me to be, and that isn’t a bad thing. I also didn’t want to shock them too badly after Clark had asked such a huge thing of them- they need time to process this development, and pushing this on them would be an emotional overload for my slightly old fashioned parents. I think I’ll try again during our summer trip.

I love San Francisco, but I forgot how stressful being around so many people can be! We went to San Fran towards the end part of our break, and yesterday just did the tourist thing for a while- saw Ghiradelli Square, Pier 39, Polk Street, and did the fun trolley cable car thing. It was a lot of fun, but really stressful for me. I forgot how much I detest large cities- so much noise, gross smells, no one respects personal space, no one gives you a second glance if you trip in the streets. It just all seems so cold to me. Not to mention the information overload. At the end of the day, my nerves were fried. At least Clark was there, he tends to ground me and is aware of my social anxiety. He is observant, and quite sensitive, thankfully, so he notices when I begin to withdraw and holds me until the panic subsides. I’m grateful for his support.

Aside from a ton of homework, that’s about it! And I survived my tests, which I wasn’t sure I was going to do, so I’m doing alright 🙂

Have a great evening!

Busy Week Nearly Done

Hello!

As you know, this week has been insane. I’ve already had three tests (one Monday, one Tuesday, and one today) with one on Friday to go. I had three papers due Monday, two of which were big, and I had a job interview today, which went well. I’m just really happy that I will be home soon. Speaking of which, I was having dinner with Clark and Ariel (my sister) today and Clark got me a fortune cookie (he has a cute habit of always picking one up for me). Ironically enough, it read, “You are traveling southward soon and will learn something new.” How did the fortune cookie know that I’m headed from Washington to California?!

Just a short blurb from your poor brain fried blog author. I want to finish this post listing everything that I know I’ve done right recently, in order to put me in a good mood and give me energy for the homework I’m about to do. I got a 95% on a history quiz from a week ago, I managed to go through my interview with very little stuttering (quite an accomplishment!), and I enjoyed myself thoroughly roughhousing with the 5th and 6th graders today while volunteering. Yay me!

I hope you all have excellent days! Wish me luck to get through the next few days. I’m so tired I may just sleep until Sunday, but I need to find energy to go to classes.

Bye for now, guys! Rachel

P. S. The UTI is nearly gone, too! Damn thing. I’ve been attacking it from both sides with antibiotics and cranberry supplements. I wish it would just die already.

Mini Life Update- Drowning in Tests

Hello all!

This is going to be one funky blog post because I did three papers yesterday (a take home essay for history, a research abstract for Exceptional Learners, and a reading response, ugh) and got very little sleep. I have about a billion tests coming up (one is today, one Tuesday, one Wednesday, and one Friday) so if I can survive the week, I will be golden. Yikes.

I swear my teachers planned this torture. Or it could just be the week before spring break. Why can’t I just skip this week already? My brain is already fried permanently. University will do that to you.

I’m super busy but super excited- Clark is going to my hometown in California with me for spring break! I can’t wait for him to meet my best friend Cila in person (and Cila has an amazing blog on WordPress, link here if you are interested in characterizing Clark from two different blogs!) And I just learned today that another dear friend of mine (who shall henceforth be known as English Major Mommy, or Emm for short) is starting up the blog life again! So that’s kind of exciting! 🙂 She will be posting all sorts of cool stuff about literature, politics, and motherhood, so if that appeals, go check her out at the links in this sentence. (I have a lot of really cool friends, guys. Just saying.)

Back on topic- I have a point to this post, I swear! Oh yeah, spring break and Clark. We have talked about marriage for a while now, and Clark decided to ask my dad for his blessing to propose to me sometime within the next few years. Which is amazing, exciting and quite wonderful! Although I don’t agree with the archaic methodology, and I sort of feel like cattle, I know it’s tradition and it’s a sign of respect, so I guess I’ll let this one slide 😉 Besides, my dad would be mad if Clark didn’t. So I will keep you updated on that!

I hope your week isn’t as busy as mine, because this sucks. Have an amazing day 🙂 Rachel

Edit: I just discovered that I have a UTI. This week is no longer just stressful, but uncomfortable now. Sigh.

Debunking the Myths Surrounding Bisexuality

Hello! Today, I’m here (not doing an important assignment) to bring to light the truth about bisexuality. There are a lot of myths and weird stigmas surrounding bisexuals, and the best way to disprove these is to talk about them with bisexuals- in this case, yours truly!

So, to start off with a bang, let’s cover rooming with a bisexual person. Basically, it’s like rooming with any other person. My dear roommate, Habib, reacted quite well when I told her I was bi a few months ago. She is an Ally, however, and I recognize that not everyone reacts like this. Some adverse reactions are due to the fact that people assume that a girl bisexual (such as myself) is going to help herself to liberties with the roommate, such as sneaking in her bed at night or something. That isn’t a bisexual trait- that is a rapist trait. Just because I am bisexual does not mean I completely ignore the rules of consent, because I’m not a rapist. I treat my roommate with respect, and we maintain an excellent relationship. Even if I was attracted to her (which I am not) and single, I doubt I would pursue her just because you don’t sleep with roommates/co-workers- basically, you don’t sh*t where you sleep. I wouldn’t want it to be awkward if it didn’t work out. Conclusion: Bisexual people are not rapists by nature.

That brings us to another point- bisexuals are not attracted to every human on the face of this earth. That would be pansexuality. Bisexuals have the possibility of being attracted to a male or a female. We don’t limit ourselves to one gender. It’s actually sort of offensive when I come out to people and the first thing I see is them being uncomfortable with me because they think I’m going to hit on them. Just because I am bisexual, does not mean I am attracted to you. Chances are, I’m not. Conclusion: Bisexuals aren’t attracted to everyone- we are attracted to certain people, but not the entire human population.

There is an assumption that is going around that bisexuals are weird, defective or transformed magically by their own sexuality. Or something like that (I think). We aren’t weird. Don’t treat us differently than before, because we are exactly the same person as before. My personality didn’t change when I realized I was bisexual- it is one facet of my character. It didn’t change me, not fundamentally. I’m the same at my core, my sexuality will never change my core values and beliefs. There’s no reason to be uncomfortable around me, because I’m still the same person and friend as before. Now you just know a little more about me. I promise the bisexuality won’t rub off if you give me a hug, and I promise I won’t be crude about it. Conclusion: My sexuality doesn’t change me at all.

Another myth to debunk: bisexuals are promiscuous. This is a generalization. It all depends on the person we are discussing. If you are talking about me, for example, I am not promiscuous at all. I have a boyfriend, and he is the only one I have ever slept with. I was a virgin when we first made love, and he was as well. I figured out I was bi about halfway through our relationship, and that hardly made me feel the need to hook up with someone different every night. But that’s just me- some bisexuals are more sexually adventurous partner wise than I am. However, this one really just depends on the person. Just like a heterosexual person can sleep with a lot of people, so can a bisexual person. On the reverse side of that, one can be a bisexual celibate person just as easily as a straight celibate person. Conclusion: We aren’t promiscuous, as a population. It depends on the person (just like anything else).

Yet another one of these unending myths is that bisexuals can’t settle down with one person. I am living proof that this is completely wrong. Besides, I hate being told what I can and can’t do. I’ve been with my wonderful boyfriend for a year and a half, and I plan on being with him for the rest of my life. I may be attracted to girls and guys, but I can control myself. Promise.

Another one is the saying that we are just confused. I am hardly confused. I like guys. I like girls. It isn’t impossible. We know ourselves better than you know us, so don’t just tell us that we are confused, we are doing it for attention, or we will grow out of this phase. That is offensive and ignorant. Don’t do that, please. Also, don’t tell me that I’m not bisexual. Don’t project that on me. I will be the first one to make you uncomfortable by checking out both a hot guy and girl at the same time in front of you, just because you chose to tell me that I can’t like both at once.

Well, that’s all that I can think of right now. Did I forget anything? Leave a comment. I appreciate the feedback.

Hope you all have a flamingly fabulous day! Rachel

PS Here’s a bonus: “Bisexuals only do it because it turns guys on.” Some do, but most do not. Besides, why bother catching flack from both the LGBT community and the straight populations just to turn guys on? We get crap from both sides, so don’t belittle our sexuality.

-Thanks for reading! Rachel

Quit Blocking the Damn Sidewalk! Rant Post

This is directed to anyone who likes to walk at a snail’s pace, right next to their friends, taking up the whole sidewalk.

You, you there. Unless you have a hearing impairment, you have to have heard my scooter’s loud clacking on the sidewalk, coming up behind you like a siren. My scooter isn’t meant for off-roading, so I am forced to slow down behind you in order to not run anyone over. This is fine, as long as you notice me and move over, just a foot. I only need a measly foot of space to zoom by, and then everyone is happy.

But if you don’t move? I know you are ignoring the fact that you are blocking traffic, not just me but everyone who courteously moved to the side behind me. You are a nuisance. You are a social deviant, and nobody appreciates the oblivious manner in which you occupy sidewalk space. Treat college sidewalks like roads- do not take up the whole sidewalk. Walk to the far side if you are slow, and allow faster walkers, bikers and those who scoot to pass. That is respectful, and then you can be sure not to get the side-eye from me as I am forced to get off my scooter, lift it, carry it around you over the grass, and then continue zooming.

Do your best not to get offended by my loud exclamation of “On your left!” I have assumed you can’t hear well, and have consequently shouted my intentions in the hopes that you or one of your friends have heard me. I saw that glare pointed in my direction- I don’t care. I’m not the one rudely blocking traffic on the sidewalk. I merely don’t care enough to submissively let the social faux pas slip. I’m too old to do the passive aggressive middle school routine, with the loud stomping (scooting?), sighing, and speed walking around you. You are in the way, I merely am reminding you that it’s polite to move when someone faster is behind you. You may think I am rude, but those around you are silently cheering in their heads, as they follow me closely in hopes of getting by you before the gap closes again.

It’s not all about you, so if you decide to stroll to class, don’t be rude and hog the sidewalk. The rest of us have things to do and classes to not be late to, so kindly move.

Prompted by an occurrence this morning, when I decided that I no longer wanted to go out of my way for a pack of freshmen. Ladies, do your part to make the world a better place. This is a great place to start.

Best friend got a blog, so read it, because she’s amazing!

Hello everybody!

I would like to point this out briefly. One of my best friends has created a blog on WordPress. She is absolutely amazing, and I am so looking forward to reading her posts! I’m sure they will be as wonderful as she is. I honestly cannot wait to see what she has to say on here. Check it out here, if you are interested: A Fine Evening: The Nightly Musings of an Introvert. Congratulations, Cila! 🙂 The WordPress blog community needs more people like you, and so welcome!

Now, excuse me for a few hours so I can freak out over this a bit. Obviously I am overexcited about this, but in my defense, who wouldn’t be?

Go take a look. It’s a super new blog, so it doesn’t have many posts, but intriguing intellectual conversations are sure to follow. Not to mention excellent photography, which A Fine Evening is sure to have.

I hope you all have a smashing day!